How Can Parents Teach Children About Interfaith Friendships?

 

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Children often ask questions that make us pause and think. One common question is, “Mom, am I guilty if I play with non-Muslim friends?” This inquiry reflects their naturally growing understanding of sin and religion. As parents, it’s essential to respond wisely and in a way that aligns with their understanding.

When answering this question, we can explain, “You know, when we talk about this, it’s important to remember that as humans, we all share similar feelings. We feel happy when someone helps us and sad when we get hurt. Sure, we might have our differences, but those shouldn’t make us enemies. Playing with friends who have different religions? That’s totally okay and definitely not a sin! The real issue comes when we hurt, insult, or hold grudges against our friends just because of what they believe. So, let’s focus on kindness and understanding instead!.”

Islam teaches us to do good to everyone, including those of different faiths. Allah emphasizes this in the Quran, Surah Al-Mumtahana, verse 8, stating that we should treat others kindly and fairly, especially those who do not oppose us in matters of faith.

لَا يَنْهٰىكُمُ اللّٰهُ عَنِ الَّذِيْنَ لَمْ يُقَاتِلُوْكُمْ فِى الدِّيْنِ وَلَمْ يُخْرِجُوْكُمْ مِّنْ دِيَارِكُمْ اَنْ تَبَرُّوْهُمْ وَتُقْسِطُوْٓا اِلَيْهِمْۗ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُقْسِطِيْنَ ۝٨

“Allah does not forbid you from dealing kindly and fairly with those who have neither fought nor driven you out of your homes. Surely Allah loves those who are fair.”

This verse encourages us to engage positively with non-Muslims as long as they do not act against us.

Teaching Children About Friendship

It’s crucial to instil in our children the value of friendship with anyone, as long as it is done with sincere intentions. For instance, if a friend offers help or a gift, it’s natural to feel happy. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught us to treat one another well, regardless of religious or cultural backgrounds.

In Quraisy Shihab’s book Answering Children’s Questions About Islam (the book title in Indonesia is Menjawab Pertanyaan Anak), there is a dialogue about a Muslim child who wonders if it’s acceptable to receive a Christmas gift from a non-Muslim friend [?].

The answer is yes!, as long as the child maintains their belief in Islam and recognizes that Jesus is a prophet, not God or the son of God. This answer illustrates that being friends and doing good deeds with non-Muslims is not sinful.

Promoting Inclusivity and Justice

We must help our children understand that Islam is a religion that promotes justice and compassion. It’s essential to teach them not to be exclusive in their friendships as long as those relationships foster goodness. Allah only forbids friendships with those who are hostile to our faith or oppress us. However, kindness is a duty to those who live peacefully alongside us.

If your child asks about interfaith friendships, don’t hesitate to provide thoughtful answers. Encourage them to see differences as a natural part of life but not as a reason to sever ties.

Let’s instil beautiful Islamic values in our children from an early age. By teaching them about kindness, inclusivity, and the importance of interfaith friendships, we can help them navigate their relationships in a way that aligns with their faith.